quotations about blame
There's nothing kills a man so soon as having nobody to find fault with but himself.
GEORGE ELIOT
Silas Marner
Blame is the number one recipe for disaster in your home! You will not heal if you leave that word in your vocabulary.
PATRICK T. GORMAN
The Unbroken Home
Before one blames, one should always find out whether one cannot excuse.
GEORG CHRISTOPH LICHTENBERG
"Notebook K", Aphorisms
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.
BRENÉ BROWN
The Gifts of Imperfection
If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches.
RAINER MARIA RILKE
Letters to a Young Poet
You made me cry,
when you said goodbye
Ain't that a shame
My tears fell like rain
Ain't that a shame
You're the one to blame
FATS DOMINO
"Ain't That a Shame"
Blame is not productive. Blame disguises and conceals. Blame alienates and separates. Blame is the killer of community, cooperation, and collaboration.
PETER ROUSE
Every Relationship Matters
Blame is the granddaddy of the victim behaviors. You cannot address problems until you stop blaming others or yourself. Blame is the opposite of problem solving, even when the content of the blame is justifiable. Blame is the essence of the victim experience, and this experience is the basis of immature social behaviors. When you feel like a victim, you pass off responsibility to others for solving your problems or you attempt to escape.
JAMES R. BAUGH
Six Hidden Motives That Defeat Your Goal
One of the annoying things about believing in free will and individual responsibility is the difficulty of finding somebody to blame your problems on. And when you do find somebody, it's remarkable how often his picture turns up on your driver's license.
P.J. O'ROURKE
Rolling Stone, Nov. 1989
The search for a scapegoat is the easiest of all hunting expeditions.
DWIGHT D. EISENHOWER
At Ease: Stories I Tell to Friends
Only losers and amateurs blame the cards. After all, cards don't care; they don't take sides, and they have no memory. They are blind justice holding her scales, and in the long run they'll tip evenly for the novice and the skilled alike.
LOU KRIEGER
More Hold'em Excellence
We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers -- you can blame anyone, but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you want to change, you're the one who has got to change. It's as simple as that, isn't it?
KATHARINE HEPBURN
attributed, Wisdom for the Soul
It is the act of an ill-instructed man to blame others for his own bad condition; it is the act of one who has begun to be instructed, to lay the blame on himself; and of one whose instruction is completed, neither to blame another, nor himself.
EPICTETUS
The Enchiridion
The job isn't done until you've blamed someone for the parts that went wrong.
SCOTT ADAMS
Dilbert's Guide to the Rest of Your Life: Dispatches from Cubicleland
There's folks 'ud stand on their heads and then say the fault was i' their boots.
GEORGE ELIOT
Adam Bede
You have no one to blame but your spouse.
AMERICAN PROVERB
There's enough grief in this world without always getting into whose fault it is.
LISA SAMSON
Hollywood Nobody
A bad workman always blames his tools.
ENGLISH PROVERB
We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who's right and who's wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and we do it with political systems, with all kinds of things that we don't like about our associates or our society. It is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Blame others. Blaming is a way to protect our hearts, to try to protect what is soft and open and tender in ourselves. Rather than own that pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground.
PEMA CHODRON
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
You can't blame your opponents for applying a strategy that beats your brains out with regularity.
BILL CLINTON
speech at Campus Progress National Student Conference, July 13, 2005